According to experts, 2 years after marriage enter a realistic phase. The honeymoon phase is up. Then you begin to see the shortcomings in your partner. Maybe you feel disappointed, start to get angry and angry. But marriage must continue and you cannot give up.
Marriage will always be colored by conflict, that’s for sure. It’s just that, this way of addressing the problem will determine how your next marriage relationship.
If handled appropriately, then the marriage continues to run well. If not, it is likely that the marriage relationship will deteriorate and be bland as if there is no more reason to stay together.
Mother, try applying some of the habits below to make a marriage relationship permanent and harmonious and strong in dealing with the storm of problems that come in turn.
1. Balance your work and family time at home
Too busy working will only make the relationship between husband and wife become tenuous. This sometimes happens because the husband is very busy and attaches importance to the work above the family. As a result there is no more time to take care of the family.
If the time is up just to work, obviously the partner will be hurt. He felt neglected and left alone at home.
Both husband and wife need to learn to balance work and family time. If you get home then leave the office and practice taking care of the family.
Work and home affairs require thought and attention. Be professional according to the place. Do not carry work matters into the house to make the home atmosphere no longer warm.
2. Keep a relationship with your partner even though you already have children
No matter how busy taking care of the child, the husband and wife still have to have time together. They can take the time when the child is asleep or vacation at home to get out together. Take a walk, have dinner, or go to the salon to spoil your wife.
If the relationship between husband and wife remains warm and intimate, then the atmosphere of the house will be warm too. Children can be taken care of by their mother, because their mother is happy.
Spend time alone so that the relationship stays warm.
3. Communicate every day, at least 15 minutes
This is a very simple thing but has tremendous power. Not all husband and wife meet every day. Because they are busy working, they rarely talk to each other.
Even though one day not talking will worsen the relationship. At least take 15 minutes to talk to each other or call or chat for those who are undergoing distant relationships.
Just talk about simple things to make the communication between the two of you go well. For example, about activities, food today, or plans tomorrow.
4. Carry out the same principles in managing finances
Many divorce cases are caused by financial management problems at home. Differences in attitude in managing money can lead to intense fights. Especially if you are typical saving while your husband is more wasteful. That is an important problem that needs attention.
To avoid this problem, equate the principles of family financial management. What should be prioritized, how much needs to be saved, and when to use money for sightseeing and shopping.
5. Learning from each other succumb to a partner
In fighting or quarreling, you don’t have to always win and look the right one yourself. Marriage is not a debate competition that you must win.
Over time, you know that there are so many moments to give in to your partner that the fight can be over. If your partner is emotional, it’s better if you give in.
Learning to give in takes time. Under certain conditions, succumbing to a partner is the best choice to maintain the household.